According to a study published in the Harvard Business Review , 2 in 5 CEOs fail within their first 18 months of leading an organization.
I believe many of these failures in leadership positions can be traced back to a single root cause: ego. An ego is typically the byproduct of past successes—often successes that required overcoming great odds. Ego can supply the fuel that drives self-confidence, self-respect, and the ability to take risks and seize opportunities.
We let it hold the reins of our lives without any resistance. The ego hides in the last place you will ever look: within itself. Disguised as thoughts or feelings, your ego tricks you. By wanting to keep our illusory-self happy, not only we place hope on an impossible goal but also harm ourselves and others.
People are willing to lie, kill, cheat, hide, or steal to protect their ego boundaries. Why is this happening to me? Everyone wants to be with me.
Why is this person attacking me? Nobody listens to me! We judge what happens through a self-centered filter. The paradox of the unhealthy ego is that, though it seems like a confidence-booster, it creates more harm.
By comparing ourselves to others, we create self-doubt. And feel disappointed pursuing endless ambitions, we end disappointed. By pretending things always to go our way, we become bitter and frustrated. Being self-centered or having a distortion of who we are, turns us into a victim of the illusory-self. However, the problem is not the beast itself, but the role it plays. Without it, we would become helpless or mentally ill. As we aspire to become richer, smarter, better, stronger, or more attractive than others, we are shadowed by a persistent sense of weariness and self-doubt.
Our ego likes security, certainty, and repetition. It makes us feel comfortable by reinforcing an idealized version of ourselves. If people threaten that illusion, we turn them into an enemy. The funny part is that we fight to keep an image of ourselves that no one buys into, except us. The ego is born out of fear and isolation. It creates our identity and separates us from those around us when we were a child. Before we recognize our own existence, we begin to see others strongly.
A photo posted by Doctor Shubh Do we? We are convinced that every person is conspiring against us. Our insecurities are taking over our sense of thinking objectively.
Our side of the story is enough for us to make everything into a battle. All the time. While sober off reality.
So I made it so. Music- 1 of the many fuels of my existence- speaks 2 me in verses. How did they all become about u? I allowed this, I admit 2 myself again. I allowed this the first time I let u affect me. Inadvertently, I let u slip in 2 a crevice. U festered. U had 2 prove a point.
That night I lost myself in ur eyes until I was distracted by that damn thing we call a reality. And then they became me. Until the universe erupted. And said: finally. What an amazing miracle. I once locked myself in a cupboard for 3 hours, just after learning about meditation.
The time flew by, and I was happy and relaxed when I finally released myself. There are many types of meditation and even though I plan to try more, I have found these three types really useful:. I slept well. Someone smiled at me at the shop.
I love those close to me and they love me. I get to see the sky every day. I have central heating. I love my job etc. I sit or lie still and count my breaths - I focus on that instead of my thoughts. Sometimes I focus on the sounds around me or I really focus on my senses.
I ask myself, will being upset or annoyed help me? This took a few months of practice, but it really works. But you can tell yourself that being upset about it does not help you. There are several books which look at the ego. Think about searching Alan Watts on YouTube too, a philosopher from the 50s and 60s who shared an eastern philosophy in western lectures If you go off into a far, far forest and get very quiet, you'll come to understand that you're connected with everything.
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